Happiness is an important part of how we can manage our life to be more fulfilled and successful in achieving our desires. Unfortunately when you are ‘just’, busy getting on, there is always someone who is going to say;
“Cheer up, it might never happen.”
“You ought to smile more.”
What some people fail to realise is that we all experience happiness in different ways. When we are busy, we are concentrating and just getting on with the tasks at hand, which means, we are less likely to be smiling, but this doesn’t mean to say you are unhappy. Some of us are able to express it more easily than others and let’s face it, if you were to smile constantly you might be considered a bit, ‘odd’.
The real question is then, how can we become happier?
Well that’s a good question but let’s step back and look at what is going on around us.
We have had a great summer and autumn but there have been big changes in the weather over the last few weeks. The days are shorter with us travelling to and from work in the dark and the prospect of this is for another 4 months. A lot of us can begin to feel fed up. The summer now seems a long time ago and it’s definitely a long time until summer 2015. It’s at times like this, when you might be, finding it difficult to get up in the morning and we need to find something to lift our spirits.
It is now common knowledge that we feel good when we are eating a good balanced diet, taking exercise, getting involved in hobbies and spending time with our friends and family. The key is all in our Oxytocin levels. Oxytocin is a hormone that is produced when expectant mothers are in labour. Oxytocin assists with smoothing out the lining of the uterus, helps to release breast milk and also helps with the bonding process of building trust and love. The more we are involved in activities with other people and having a good time with them, the higher the levels of Oxytocin will be pumped into our system.
So how can we do that without having to give birth?
A meaningful hug is a great way to show others how much they mean to you. The warmth of the other person’s body next you, your hearts as close as possible and the connectivity of skin to skin contact. All these things show the intimacy you have with that person. I’m not saying that we should go around hugging everyone we come across; that would be just strange and very frightening for those who have large personal boundaries. However, what I do mean is to share a hug with the ones you love, your friends, close work colleagues and you will begin to notice a difference in how you feel. Watch out though, it can become addictive!
Do something meaningful for other people. When we do something for someone and you can see their appreciation it makes us feel good. Life, if we are not careful, can be so fast flowing that we can easily forget about other people around us, other people who are less fortunate than ourselves. However, being a part of a group and passing forwards a few hours of our time, kindness and care will mean the world to them.
Like any change you want to make in your life it is a choice. It’s important to give yourself permission to make that change.
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